REALLY READ THIS, AS THIS SORT OF STUFF HAS HAPPENED TO ME AND I REALLY WANT TO HELP YOU OUT IF ANY OF THIS HAPPENS TO YOU, IT SEEMS VERY BIG AND CHUNKY BUT THERE IS A LOT OF INFO WHICH IS IN THERE WHICH CAN HELP YOU, IT AIN'T JUST THE SAME THINGS AS EVERYBODY ELSE IS POSTING.
Hey man, don't worry about starting up in a new school, but as you have asked, I am going to give you a few tips which I have learnt over my past years at Secondary School:
1. Make as many friends as you can when you join, as making a first impression is always very important, and if you do make a pretty good impression with most of your classmates and people within other forms, then you will more likely be stable in friendships as your years progress, maybe even moving up the ranks in the "popularity chain". ( If your into wanting to be popular, as I think most kids do)
2. Right when you join, I suggest that you first travel to each of the individual sort of "groups" which will be in your class, mainly consisting of 2-5 good friends who you may hope to join while your in the school, as your group of mates. And once you have travelled and spoken to each of the groups and have basically got your understanding of them, then decide which group you want to join, as to be honest, once you have joined a group, most of the time your "mates" in the group will be reluctant for you to leave later on in your school years, ( probably because they have grown a strong relationship with you and don't want you to go) but remember that a big majority of your life is going to be spent at school, so my tip is to make sure within your class you choose carefully about who you want to hang out with, so that your time at school can be most enjoyable!
3. Following onto the other point about your friends being reluctant for you to leave their "group" - As you stay in your school more, the friends you make will get stronger yet at the same time, you may feel that you seem to enjoy the company of another group of friends more, (this is most possible when you change who is in your form) in this case, I suggest that you slowly detach yourself from your "group" of friends and hang out with the other group more, invite them to your house, play games together afterschool etc. As you do this though, your friends may notice and want to confront you, if so, just reply "I am allowed to choose who I want to hang out with", as then they really won't have a word to say, considering this is your life, and they can't control who you hang out with.
If you do have this confrontation, then don't start regretting what you have done to your friends or how you may of had treated them, as they were the ones at fault, you can choose who you hang out with and shouldn't be held back by ex-friends (as you leave the group, you probably will result in not talking to your previous friends as much, but don't worry as if you like the people you are hanging out with, you shouldn't have to worry about the others). So as a summary to this point, if you want to leave your "group" just do it, but don't be too instinctive as that is a bit harsh, yet don't let your friends persuade you to join back, follow your heart and if you want to be with a different group of people, just do it, your old friends don't have the power to stop you.
That was a big point 3, but I feel that the particular point was very important as I faced the same decision and was put off leaving my friendship group for a long time, resulting with the people I wanted to hang out with making more and more new friends, also resulting in me feeling there is less chance of me hanging out with them. But don't follow my life example and when you want to hang out with them, just do it in the moment, otherwise you may spend months holding it off only regretting it later on, and remember, the longer you hold it off, the stronger the relationship with the friends you want to leave, so the sooner you break off from them, the better.
4. Right when you join, don't less yourself get pushed around, I mean I was one of the class clowns who would make everybody laugh by acting weird and doing unusual things which would be funny. Now, many people will get that you are just doing a joke, yet some may use this to take advantage of you, making fun of you etc. This happened to me but later on it stopped due to me just laying off my funny acts a bit, and whenever they would take the mick, I would just insult them back or turn the situation funny (remember that they may still take the mick of that too...).
So basically, when you join your new school, you can be the funny guy, but also don't let them push you around, right when the first guy try's and insults you I suggest you ignore it, with some sort of facial impression that they are not worth arguing back to, or have some witty comment which will be respected by fellow classmates, or this give them a punch in the belly or something, hard enough to wind them but not so they start crying or going to a teacher, just to show them that you are not to be messed with, as if you let them do it, more will think it's OK and will also start making fun of you.
And one of the most annoying things - "Calm down, somebody is getting stressy" - that line just angers me so much and I think that makes me stressy
, so if people use that against you then just injure them or retaliate an insult, I suggest you just insult them. Just plain simple insult. If they carry on saying "Your getting stressy!" then just make comments as to why you think they don't like you anyway, then point it out in front of people to embarrass them e.g. "Your just sad that I left you and the rest of the group because I want to hang out with people cooler and more fun than you, sorry but I can do what I want, and your just insulting me because your sad that I hurt you
" Always keep a cheeky smile at the end so they will be pissed off at the least.
5. Now this point is more to do with popularity, I suggest that you always keep at least 2 people who are popular on your side, so if you ever do feel like joining into the "popular" group, then at least 2 people with accept you, and in the case of bullying, if anybody bullies you, I hope this doesn't happen if you follow tip 4, but if it does, then insult, hit or witty comment, but also I suggest that while your around the bullies, hang out with your popular friends, to let the bullies know that you have power and that its going to be tough for them to bully you in the school as you have 2 pop. kids on your side.
6. Don't worry about getting a few detentions or anything like that, I'm not saying turn into a "badman" but also don't be a goody-goody, as then tip 4 will probably not work considering people will think your a wimp, so don't be afraid of doing daring things etc. So this would help in first impressions if you play maybe some faintly- violent games like "manhunt" or anything. I don't want you to turn into a badass (even though some can get quite popular) but I don't want you to be considered as a nerd either.
7. Take part in sports, as if you are good, then you will make friends with people who are also good, as well as any of the people playing the sport, furthermore, if your not that good at sport, play it anyway and if you do bad, take it as a laugh, joke about it with your friends, and if they carry on annoying you with it, then just comment on what they're bad on. But always take part in sport, it is a good way of making friends.
Thats pretty much all I have to say, it took some time writing all this but I hope that you enjoy your time at school and I don't want you to make any of the same mistakes as me, the bottom line is _ Enjoy Yourself! Hang out with friends you want to hang out with, don't be pressured into doing anything you really don't want to do, but at the same time don't come out as a wimp, keep in touch with a variety of friendship groups and don't let yourself get pushed around by other kids.
Have a great time at your school.