Don't be self-obsessed [P.S. you all got rekt] [its really more of 3 year thing]

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avatar -Rusty-
Level 38 : Artisan Taco
Hey to the say to the may I have your attention pls! I need to say two things.
Well actually, 3, maybe...

1) This is my last blog, forever... maybe ;-; Skip to end for goodbyes
2) Despite it being April fools, OF COURSE IT WAS YOU GUYS. Jeezzzz, or not
2.5) (my joke will be executed at 7:05 MT, it's called the "Poisson D'avril")
3) You all need to stop being so self-loathing...

Our own worst enemies

So, the question arises, why does being so obsessed with ourselves create a problem? After all, what happened to survival skills, every man for himself? Be your own person? You're awesome just the way you are and don't ever say you're anything less than perfect?

All that is good, fun, inspirational, and all that jazz, BUTT!
Self-Obsession can turn deadly, even with all these factors.

But yet another question arises, why is caring about others more benificial to anything? After all, everybody lies, steals, cheats, etc, etc. Well the answer is, because if you want to be the nice person you better man up and put your encouragement pants on.

So what's the problem with loving yourself too much?

A brain-busting question, but it's not so much that loving yourself and caring about yourself is bad...
It's when those levels are off the charts that matter.

99% of the world's equality problems can be traced to people thinking that they are better than other people; People think they better because their money, their knowledge, their fame, or even their ability to do something so amazing that no one else could ever top them in that area. Whatever it is, it’s all self-obsession. When we start to over-love ourselves, we start to do a phenomena I'm just going to refer to as "humane self-destruction".

This [made-up?] word basically is the process in which you love yourself so much that your life is eventually destroyed by it, let me explain.

When you love yourself TOO much, you start getting the sense that you're better than everyone. Whether you are just being pretentious, or you truly do have a great skill/wealth/fame, we need to realize that none of that means jack. No not you Jack, you just keep on doing you. Eventually, people don't want to hang with you and/or you don't want to hang out with others that you find "lower" then you. The greater you feel, the more powerful you make yourself out to be, the more living a normal life becomes that hard.
Even afters months, years, decades of us saying that we rely on our "own opinion", under it all, we were actually slowly forming our entire identity based around our "skills" or our "wealth" or "fame", When in reality, your identity is found in your characteristics, your emotional capacity, your ability to care, and your overall integrity as a human being.

After a while of this, maybe we our unable to do our ‘Skill’ as well as we used to, or maybe our wealth has slowly faded away, and the fading skills we relied on to fuel our fame has faded away, maybe someone new has come in, rendering you ‘old fashioned, outdated’, giving you extreme discouragement. You no longer know you’re identity, and by that I mean you don’t know yourself well enough. You look in the mirror, and you see a complete stranger, you feel trapped inside the Paradox of identity that you have created, and all because you were too damn pretentious.

An Indentity Crisis: From -1 to 100

The biggest example I can give of finding identity in the things that you do rather than who you are is simply in children. Children you say? But they are so innocent and cute, and do the cutest things, how could they possibly be the biggest example of this horrible thing called "Humane self-destruction?"

The answer: Childhood is when it begins. From the moment we are born, and even before that, we are subject to what the world says. By before, I am referring to things like an abortion, a fetus abnormalities. Before we even come jumping out of Mama's belly with great joy, the world is already judging us, and giving us our identity. Yes, I do mean to touch on this abortion topic, but it's like we always are strictly owned by something from the time we are created to the time we die.

After birth, there is another thing I like to call Parent Praise. Things like "My child is amazing", or "My child is the cutest" or "My child is going to grow up to do amazing things/be the president".
Parents, get over yourself, and you're children. No one is perfect, no one living on this Earth will ever be perfect, and the best you can do is try to guide them along through life before they completely ignore you and decide to make their own decisions that may or may not be stupid!

When children grow up, slightly past toddler years even, or still there, they "preform". They say look here, or look at me. Constantly they try to get your attention, not because they want to be performers or anything, but actually because they are seeking your approval. Not that this is totally bad, as those moments are some of the first encouragement those children get, but rather that a lot of kids take that to their teens and adult years.

As children get older, they start to look for others people approval even more! Now, this can either go either one of two ways. Either the child is praised for his skills, and looks down the path of this self-destruction, or else the child is not praised for his skills, and after maybe years of trying to find that, constantly looks for what he is good and not good at, and what he can and cannot do, almost exclusively based on others opinions. We are going to focus on the first this blog.

As kids really start to mature, the opinions of others can either matter a whole lot, or else the opinions of other people helped so much, that now you assume you are just amazing. So many times, throughout school, and even collage, all the way into adult workplaces, people are more known as "that guy" or "[profession] guy", "[skill] guy". An example can be "The Jock", "The Slacker", "The Nerd", "and The Hard worker “,” The Charitable guy “,” The Gross guy “,” The New kid, The Bully". As the famous fictional character, Dr.House, once said: "We are who people say we are". This is true, but it’s even truer if we let it be. If instead of looking at who WE actually are, we look at what we are good at, and at what people notice in us, or what we can offer them, then this is the stage that kids/teens really start to follow the path of "self-destruction".

What to do about pretentiousness / Finding your true identity.

As much as there is not much we can do to stop ourselves from going down this path at a very young age, there is something that teens-young adults can do. Stop looking at what you can and cannot do, and don't place your importance on what you have or have not accomplished. We are all made up of the same thing. We all have billion trillions of DNA strands in us, and we all have cells and bones. We all have a heart, a brain. We all can think, and we all the ability to change the world if we really wanted to.

As for other people. Stop giving so much praise out to people! You may not think it, but you might just lead them down a road where they will become so self-loathing, that nothing will even matter anymore!

Furthermore, instead of trying to find your identity in these kinds of things, and instead of think "I'm better/worse at this", try instead just think of the core qualities that make you who you are. Maybe you are kind, maybe you're a bit of a short-fuse. Maybe you are loving, and caring. Maybe you are funny, maybe you can cheer people up with one sentence. Maybe you're a free spirited person, or maybe you're a sit-back peaceful take-it-easy kind person. Either way, let these define who you are, and let them help you decide what you are going to do in your life.

Now, something to be careful of, the world can still flip these things upside down. For example, you may say you're a sad person, because you’re sad a lot, or maybe the simplest things make you cry. That doesn't make you sad depressed person that makes you emotional, and sensitive! Two great qualities to have!

Always remember who you are, not what you can do, not what people say you are, not what society says you are.
Be purely you, and you will stand out as one the people in this great big crazy world who isn't just self-destructing themselves, when they could be saving themselves a lifetime of trouble by simply following a few easy steps such as these!

An Epic Conclusion

Well the previous section was kind of a conclusion, so I will end with a quick recap and my unforchunate goodbyes ;-;:

So? What did you learn? Are you on a path of "Humane self-destruction?"
A Good way to tell if you are is to answer a simple question. "Who are you?"

My answer? Well I am Rusty, I am a fun, free-spirited guy. My policy is love everyone, because we are all equal created anyway, so why should you deserve any less love than me? I can be sensitive, but I can also give you the best time of your life without spending a dime, and all you have to do is be around me.

If, when answering this question, there was a larger emphisis on "what you can do" vs "what you are", then you should probably re-evaluate some things.
And trust me, I know going from opinion-based living and people-opinion-based living can be hard, but everthing is so much more awesome when we truley know who we are!

(Almost) Three years of PMC

Its been three years since I started on PMC, and since then, I've been banned from the chat once, which was a real actions/consequences smack in face until chat 2.0 came out [it was a while after tho.] And after making some sucessful blogs, dieing a few times, and trying to make a few horrible comebacks, (and maybe this great amazing one now...), I sit back waiting, blogging and trying to teach you guys some #logic

Shoutouts to these Amazing people who have been awesome to me:

You all are amazing! Even people I didn't/forgot the mention! Haha!!

This is Rusty, Signing off... Maybe not for good...
You stay classy, PMC.

CreditBubz for the thumbnail

04/06/2015 8:39 pm
Level 1 : New Crafter
But, But, I was just getting to know you! #Pulled a Yoda
04/03/2015 10:03 pm
Level 22 : Expert Lumberjack
Even though I've barely known who you were for the past month.. the goodbyes were so filled with emotion I literally teared up..
04/03/2015 12:50 pm
Level 49 : Master Cowboy
step 2.5: april fish

Seeya later. Hope life is awesome for you, even without PMC. :D
04/03/2015 11:27 am
Level 40 : Master Network
i dont think he's really gone :) he sorrta said goodby on APril 1st.

COME ON guys. he's pulling your proverbial chain. H'es probably just taking a vacation. and he will say
April fools when he gets back from his weekend vacation. :D
He's too good a writer to REEEAAALLLY stay away.

Thats what writers do, the love to write so they come back and write.  If he's gotten a legitmate job as a freelance writer for some blogg or news agency, he would likely of said that so that we could share in his good fortune. He wouldnt just say.. welp.. bye .. its been fun. but i wont be back.

He said it himself, .. Its an addiction. and its not even a BAD addition. :D
He'll be back and doing what he loves cause A.. he love it, and B he does it for the community.
Once your a minecrafter. Your a minecrafter for life.. It dosnt stop. sorry.
04/03/2015 7:37 pm
Level 38 : Artisan Taco
Minecrafter =/= Blogger ;-;

This is 50% true. It's true, Blogging was/is my life, and its hard to let go of what you know.
The problem isn't so much that I am giving up, I'm just kind of not going to focus so much on it anymoar.

You know what, screw it, I am a great writer... Just don't except weekly post's or nothing even if I do decide to focus moar on PMC again XD

Also job as a freelance writer, sounds wicked tots doing that omg monies lel
04/03/2015 2:38 am
Level 80 : Elite Turtle
Bye Rusty.I will miss your great Blogs.
04/02/2015 8:07 pm
Level 32 : Artisan Pixel Painter
k thx bye

But seriously. :(
04/02/2015 9:17 am
Level 41 : Master Artist
I know, right? Obsessing over me is everyone else's job.
04/02/2015 7:37 am
Level 23 : Expert Archer
*snifs* good bye
04/02/2015 6:36 am
Level 21 : Expert Dragonborn
k bye
04/02/2015 10:53 am
Level 38 : Artisan Taco
ye ok bai
04/02/2015 12:49 am
Level 59 : Grandmaster Cyborg
gg :C

You were the first person I subbed to.
04/02/2015 12:15 am
Level 53 : Grandmaster Gent
dang bro, you picked the one day when I cannot trust anyone.
04/02/2015 12:21 am
Level 38 : Artisan Taco
Waiting till tommorow MIGHT of been a good idea ;-;
04/02/2015 12:24 am
Level 53 : Grandmaster Gent
Well, now that I know that you seriously aren't joking, I wish you the best. I hold anyone (within reason) who leaves PMC in the highest respect, especially those who I've come to know.
04/01/2015 10:14 pm
Level 7 : Apprentice Pig
:O :O D: WHYYYYYY! +Diamond
04/02/2015 12:20 am
Level 38 : Artisan Taco
This 'real life' everyone keeps talking about, going to try it out XD

P.P.S what is the 'nature'? Can I get it on Netflix?
04/02/2015 7:38 am
Level 23 : Expert Archer
lol, I think it's a youtube channel
04/01/2015 7:04 pm
Level 61 : High Grandmaster Pixel Puncher
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