.. I can agree with multiple in this post easily..
But I can also say that you didn't spend much time looking for a decent server
If it's not neat, that should be a sign it's not worth your time. There are good servers out there, they may or may not be as populated as those you might of visited as they more than likely don't sell ranks/ect nonsense that most naive owners do.
Or hell maybe you're a really heavy critic, who knows. My only active members in the past week have been mature, of course the kids show up ask for staff, I say no then they're gone.
You'll find your place, maybe.