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Everyone Is a Jerk | Popreel

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Cardinal System avatar Cardinal System
Level 29 : Expert Geek
NOTE: This is an old article and I don't like some of the things I said. I would like to go through this and rewrite it sometime. It has some nice points to consider, but I would no longer promote this article. I am not deleting it because I need the diamonds ;-;


(NOTE: This part is very metaphoric. Do not take it seriously. If you dislike reading, skip to "Situation".)

Take a minute to look at yourself. What do you see? A helpless victim subject to the cruelty of society. Everyone picks on you, everyone avoids you, and everyone hates you. This is the pitiful reality you endure everyday. It defines you, and you are its bound captive. The prospect of your importance is nothing.

Now let me ask you something. If you are truly the worthless specter that the world makes you out to be, then why would someone even take the time to write about you? Time is a priceless treasure that is endlessly fleeing from its users. It's not worth wasting on the trifling likes of you. But I sit here and do so anyway. Why?

The truth is, I never intended to write this for you. I hoped it to be for one who is long in the past. It is he that showed me you wretched scum, although you and he are no different. You are both valueless slaves belonging to the concept of "expelled". Yet I write to him anyway. Why? You see, this long lost figure is myself. He was a pointless creature who only existed to die, just as you are. But fate is the most fickle thing, and it twisted in an unexpected way. Yes, my old self died, but his death was not fruitless. In fact, it is the contrary. It is because he died that I was born. We are the same organism yet opposite people.

It is time that you die as well. It is your turn to reach enlightenment. You must slay yourself, and in doing so will free yourself. You must make the decision to abandon your ignorance and take pursuit of knowledge.


(NOTE: Okay, the metaphorical part is over.)

If you are reading this, it is likely that you feel that everyone is a jerk. I know because I used to feel the same way. However, you are wrong. Believe it or not, in most cases you are the one being a jerk. It usually boils down to maturity, so if you are younger than fourteen it is highly probable that you are indeed the jerk. Although "jerk" is not the right word, because it's not like you are intentionally being a pain. It would be more appropriate to say "senseless". Because the fact is, you really are quite rude, although you simply don't know it.

Right now you probably feel defensive and want to leave a nasty comment, but for your own sake I encourage you to read the rest of this before doing so. Besides, I made it clear that you are not purposely inconsiderate, so this is constructive criticism, not a personal attack.

A Closer Look

Okay, so you are no longer a "valueless slave belonging to the concept of 'expelled'", but rather a senselessly inconsiderate fool. Not a big improvement at all. Before you can take any steps in getting better, you must first identify how you are being rude. Luckily for you, most "everyone is jerk" people have basically the same flaws, so exposing them will be easy.
  1. You do not respect authority and guidelines! Most maturing minds find excitement in testing the limits. Some find it amusing to rebel against authority. Because these actions are done subconsciously, you feel indignant when punished.
  2. You are annoying! You probably tend to nag people, spam the chat, or say nonsensical things just for reactions. People hate this more than anything.
  3. You are attention thirsty! You often are desperate for friends or attention. People hate it when someone eagerly hangs on them 24/7.
  4. You are power hungry! Everywhere there is a ranking or point system, there are power hungry people. Even I want diamonds on all my submissions so I can level up.
  5. You are overly sensitive! You are most likely easily offended. People on the internet are generally not attacking you. It is likely that they are in good humor.


I'm pretty helpful telling you what a horrible person you are and rubbing it in your face, right? Well, I've had enough of that now. It's time to tell you how you can improve.

  1. Love authority and guidelines! Rather than thinking of what a pain it is to follow so many rules, take an enthusiastic approach to the situation. Think of following the rules as a challenge. Make it your goal to be the best you can. Don't be the rule breaker, be the flag raiser instead. People are generally more happy when they follow the rules. Don't get angry when you are punished. Respect the moderator's decision and make an effort to improve. Moderators usually know what's best, so it is rare that they make a mistake or are unjust. Remember, the moderators exist to make this a better place. It is their primary concern to make sure that everyone has a good time. If you feel they are unjust, make sure to do the following before raising an appeal:
    1. Always wait until you are calm, then think it over.
    2. Ask a friend or your parents if you are overreacting.

  2. Practice moderation! Always think over your messages before sending them. Make sure you are not repeating anything previously said. Do not stretch out one message over many, instead try to pack it all into a single message. Try not to interrupt other peoples' conversations. Never over-ping. People lose their minds when someone keeps pinging them. Don't say things off-topic or absurd. It is awkward and irritating when someone jumps into the chat and screams "I'm a flying sack of potatoes!" Random is not always funny and stupid is never unique.
  3. Take it slowly! If you alone in the chat and someone joins, do not jump on them. I know you've been sitting there for hours buffering all your thoughts, but no one wants to join the chat just so you can flush on them. See if they are hanging around before striking up a conversation. Slowly stream your thoughts so you don't overload the other person. They probably just finished typing their dissertation and are not as eager to talk as you are. Never rush to the conclusion that you just made a friend. If someone is kind to you, that does not automatically make them your buddy. When you do make a friend, like I said before, do not jump on them. If they need to leave, do not pressure them into staying. Simply say "Talk to you later!" and let them go on their merry way.
  4. Everyone is equal! Never think less of someone just because you are higher level than they are. Never try to prevent a user from leveling up or gaining followers. If you want to be popular, produce content that people like; do not tear down others. Another thing you want to is maintain diversity. If you are advertising your submissions, do not keep showing off the same thing. Advertise your other content so people do not get sick of seeing the same old thing.
  5. Take it lightly! If someone offends you, it is likely that you are overreacting. As I said earlier, most people are engaging in friendly teasing or joking. If something seems rude or mean, try to interpret it as a joke. Sometimes people are just tired or have had a bad day. They will be friendly in the morning. Usually when people are trying to be mean they make it quite obvious. If someone is actually being a jerk, simply block them or tell a moderator. Also, don't go complaining about an inconvenience. You are only allowed to rant to your closest friends, and even that should be uncommon. You never want to make a big deal out of a simple insult.
Practicing these little disciplines will make you much more pleasant company. You find it easier to get along with people, and your self esteem/acceptance will rise.

Everyone still hates me

If you have tried everything I suggested and you still feel that everyone is a jerk, there a chance that you either have a different problem or people are actually being jerks. You should always ask your parents for their opinion. They exist solely to protect and raise you, so it is their job to know what's best for you. If your parents say everything is fine, but you still feel mistreated, it is time to see a therapist. These people are professionally trained in psychology and can identify the problem. It doesn't matter if you are actually a victim. It doesn't matter if you have a different problem. They know the human mind and will find a solution. All you have to do is tell your parents that you want to see a counselor.

If your parents will not let you see therapist, there is also a chance that they are bad parents. I hate to say it, but bad parents actually exist. It is a sad truth that plagues the earth. That being said, I doubt your parents are actually bad. Their motivation is probably money, as counseling is not free. The best solution would be to talk to your school. Find a teacher or staff member that you trust and ask him if he can get you help. You can also ask your primary care provider (the doctor you visit most often), they are usually trained to deal with all issues their patients might be having.

If all else fails, you can always send me a private message. I will not hesitate to help someone in need.

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04/29/2021 8:23 pm
Level 15 : Journeyman Cake
-Arxelin- avatar
never knew i am jerk
04/30/2021 1:02 am
Level 29 : Expert Geek
Cardinal System
Cardinal System avatar
Hehe I wouldn't know :3
04/25/2018 6:52 pm
Level 26 : Expert Procrastinator
VoidTheGreat avatar
Then I'm not a pain! You make a good point. What I would say is that you need to give it a shot when someone does something annoying, just ask them why they did that! And maybe it's worse than your situation, if it is, try to be friendly and helpful!
12/19/2018 8:03 pm
Level 29 : Expert Geek
Cardinal System
Cardinal System avatar
Careful there, Corrine. I might get brutally honest with you xD (jk)
04/13/2018 8:11 pm
Level 42 : Master Explorer
CPUser_ avatar
I think you should precise the limits of your ideas. You did it well addressing the age of people feeling like "everyone is a jerk", but in that point :

1 Reformation :
Two of the biggest authorities above a lot of us are the State and the markets. And simply apply the words you wrote about the behaviour one should have in front of the State or a market is quit terrible in my opinion. Because, by admitting that authorities are much more experienced than you and simply say OK! to the rules imposed to every citizen, you could accept anything from the State. Like giving your private data.

However, that is not a heavy point, but I thought useful to write what I felt reading this passage. Actually, I would add something about the false feeling that everyone else is a jerk : it is a bad behaviour to get the faculty to guess who is probably a jerk.

2 behaviours :
- Your default position is that no one in particular is a jerk, so you discuss and socialize with the most of the people you meet. By doing that, with time, you will get experience allowing you to guess if you are in front of a jerk or not. You will not succeed each time, but with time, that faculty will be better and better.
- Your default position is that everyone else is a jerk, you do not speak with new people, you mistrust everyone else, etc. And that is the bad position because, doing that, you will never learn how to recognize a jerk from cool people.
12/19/2018 7:57 pm
Level 29 : Expert Geek
Cardinal System
Cardinal System avatar
I am having trouble understanding the entirety of your comment. I think I get the basic idea about state and markets, but I cannot make out the rest. Though, as far as state and markets is concerned, I do not think they apply to this article. This is aimed mostly towards people on the internet, where the only immediate authorities are moderators and admins. I hope to goodness that no one tries to apply this to civic authorities!
12/25/2018 2:26 pm
Level 42 : Master Explorer
CPUser_ avatar
Yeah, I may be went to far in my comment as well as the moderators and admins were the main object ^^.
03/15/2018 11:44 pm
Level 28 : Expert Cake
Fireflye avatar
So this is true for some people, but not for me. I am bullied constantly and everyone legit is a jerk in my class. I have lots of friends and that good jazz but really. Everyone is a jerk. Also in the "A closer look" section you said some p r e t t y ofensive stuff. good job forcing ideals on someone though. You got alot of attention.
12/19/2018 7:53 pmhistory
Level 29 : Expert Geek
Cardinal System
Cardinal System avatar
One of the first things I said was a generalization. "In most cases..." That means this applies to a lot of people, but not everyone. If this doesn't apply to you, then you are not included in that generalization, and you can move on. If this does apply to you, then you need to look at it as constructive criticism. I clearly started at the beginning of the article: "this is constructive criticism, not a personal attack." I also said, "If you have tried everything I suggested and you still feel that everyone is a jerk, there a chance that you either have a different problem or people are actually being jerks." You might have a different problem, or your classmates might really be absolute jerks. Either way, this should not be insulting. I really see no reason for you to feel offended.
03/12/2018 3:49 pm
Level 6 : Apprentice Crafter
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In my experience, making values-judgements only aggravates the feelings of anyone who does feel indignant. The predicates at each point are fine ("follow the rules", "take things lightly", etc.), but making declarations about the initial state of things ("moderators usually know what's best", "you are overreacting", etc.) is your own conclusion and invalidates someone's feelings to the contrary. You don't know if they're wrong, and even then it's subjective.

Rather than making such blanket-statements, I would focus on the situation as-is ("this is the way things are, and here's how to navigate them"). That delivers the information without implying they have no right to their feelings.
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