Guess who's back :))

Props to a guy at a halloween store my family used to be friends with who gave me a tiny toy toilet once that when you opened the toilet lid you would get sprayed with water. I lost that toilet years ago but forever it will stay in my memories 😔

Who am I to you?

I know in this culture singleness is in many people's minds is almost like a disease. Like if you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend you begin to think 'Is there something wrong with me?'

I want to tell you no. No, there is nothing wrong with you. Honestly. Culture has put such a huge emphasis on dating. Like you have to date, if you haven't ever dated before your so weird. But, let me tell you the truth. You don't have to date to be important or to have a purpose. So many people fall into thinking that if no one likes them they aren't important and have no meaning.

If your thinking that STOP. You have a meaning and a purpose. You do. I don't just think so, just the fact that your here and alive on this earth and reading this proves that. You have a purpose, you might not know it right now, but you do.

But, you can't derive who you are or your worth out of if someone likes you or if your dating someone.

I know I'm kind of falling off topic, but honestly I really really want what is best for you.

I think singleness is almost a blessing in disguise. You can do so many things right now that someday when you meet that person you won't be able to do as easily. Now is your time to try new things, find out more of who you are, make new friends, create new habits. So that when you meet that person you'll be entirely ready and prepared. I know this is kind of a big topic.

But, wait. You have no idea how much waiting helps with your character. Than in the end it will be entirely worth it. Trust me. :)

Edit: I'm not saying you shouldn't get married or when you get married you loose your freedom. What I'm saying is far from that. I believe very strongly that dating isn’t just this thing were "Oh there's a cute guy." I wanna date him. Or vice versa. I believe dating is a period in a deep friendship between two people who are in hopes to get married. Not just something you do for fun and when someone 'better' comes around you drop them or when they're no longer 'fun' This post is an encouragement for those who are single and haven't found that person who they're meant to be with. To tell you to use your single years for good so when you meet them you both can reach people and goals together. :)

Who am I to you?

Alrighty, I'm no longer a moderator. I approached a few problems poorly years prior per long overcome inexperience, and it's come back to snatch me down - I won't dive into details, but I understand what's happened, and for anyone who wonders "Why did they step down?", it was an understandable result, with me lacking any way to properly reference or discuss something that happened five years prior, so it's completely reasonable. :) Not that I'm happy, sure, but it's reasonable, and I want that to be absolutely clear. It's been great contributing to the moderation team, and I hope those still present engage happily enough too.

Cyprezz is an excellent owner, and I want it to be known he really does support everyone getting along, mediating tensions, being friendly and such- Trying to (and rather successfully) fostering a community that's diverse and often clashing while still hopefully kind and supportive enough. A respectable, admirable challenge; he just wants everyone to get along, and that's great! I have no regrets from my time as a moderator, bar the fact it's over now - and that is what it is. Most who see this probably didn't see me often nowadays, but if you do know me, hey! It was great working in this position, helping to make the community a little happier along the way, and making my own fair share of accidental errors too (as moderation always has), while trying to overall have a good impact on the site. :) Thanks for the time.

I'm not going anywhere, though - I'll still be here, as a member. Just not moderating!

So, I'll use this opportunity as a bit of inspiration/advice for other people:

• Your actions matter. You may not think it, but a mistake, error, sin, making an enemy of someone- Anything like that has lasting repercussions, which go further than just a single month, week, or even day or hour of your life. Take care, and try to make choices you'll be happy with in the future. When you aren't sure what to do in a situation and all options look to be bad, think about the long term effects it may have on everyone involved. Yourself especially. Look after yourself, and remember that actions you make last.
• Seek peace with people you speak with. Even if you don't like someone much, aim to get along with them if possible. Find ways to ease tensions, to see eye to eye. To make friends, or at least to not be at odd's ends with someone. You may have wildly different views on how life works, or there may even be a major problem at hand, but it's never worth raising tensions with someone to make them an enemy. A huge part of looking after yourself and others is respecting the differences between people. This can be difficult, as a lot of walks of life clash inherently, but if you can find this kind of peace, you're already going to be better off for it.
• Be nice. Self-explanatory, with the other two above: Coldness of any sort can genuinely catch up to you. Try to be a kind person, even while you're still growing and learning. It's difficult, and mistakes will happen along the way, but so long as someone's trying, the mistakes shouldn't be too bad.
• Believe in yourself. Even if things look tough and you're starting to doubt how to move forwards with life, remember that you can still succeed. So long as life is continuing, there's still some hope to make it through and overcome the hurdles you face. Do not let anything take away from that confidence and determination to grow, persevere, and make life your own to be happy with.
• Mistakes happen. That doesn't mean to accept and ignore the weight of the mistakes, but it does mean to remember not to beat yourself up if you do something wrong. Try to mediate tensions with involved people, apologise, see what you can do to recover from the mistake, and overall just keep working to grow as a person. We aren't defined by our mistakes; we are more than just the small parts of what makes us people. Look out for yourselves, and try to accept your errors, while not dragging yourself down with them. They are not the shackles dragging you down; they are just parts of this walk of life. Some will even be pretty bad mistakes, but if life's still ongoing, you can still change, and you can still grow, and there's still hope for you.
• There's always hope. Like the above two points, even when something's still reaching for you after a long time, there's always hope to change and develop. There's always hope to find new friends, new communities, new job opportunities- Nothing is destined to fall apart entirely, purely based on the past. The present and future will be influenced by the past, but your own actions can change and influence them too. You're never hopeless. Never. There's always a future.
• Seek help and advice. This is perhaps the hardest thing to do when so few people know how to make it through their own lives, but the reality is we're all learning and trying to make our own journeys. It isn't easy, and it never will be. There's no-one who fully grasps everything they have in life, yeah? But, you can at least seek to hear what others think about life, comparing it with your own journeys, seeking for support and encouragement to try to make your own life better, and perhaps theirs too in the process. We all have thoughts worth sharing (and thoughts that aren't worth sharing, haha. We're all complex, after all).
• Never stop learning. As said, we'll never be perfect. Always keep trying to grow. I can't promise it'll matter in some situations, as sometimes regardless of how much you've done you'll still get into problems based on a lesser-capable version of you's choices, however you should still always try to grow, because while some situations are dead-ended, it will open the door to potential options which aren't. There's hope for you. For everyone. It may feel hard to find right now, but in this society, there's no point where someone has no possible way to hope, to care for themself, to hold up a job, friends, a community- There's always hope. Keep growing, keep taking care, and keep trying to work forwards with life.

There's a bit more I think I'd be interested in rambling about, but this is already quite long and the post is partly motivation for myself, and ideally, motivation for others too. :) Life's tough, but there's always a path forwards. Don't let the complexities of this world make you feel helpless; you can always grow.
Even if it feels really tough.

Take care. :)

Always seek to take care.

You may not know what for, but future you may well thank you for doing it. :)