Witherwings_

PMC but every time you diamond a submission a member leaves

Rant time!

If there's one thing I can't stand, it's complainers. Not people who have problems, of course, and not even people who are emotionally needy (I'm both of those things from time to time), but people who enjoy wailing endlessly about it.
They say: Boohoo, I'm ugly and fat and no one loves me!
You say: No you're not! I think you're beautiful, and you're one of my very best friends!
They say: Yes I am! I'm ugly and fat!
And then they do the very same thing the next day.
Listen, y'all. I know low self-esteem happens; in this day and age, insecurity and depression affect a lot of young people. But when you're so utterly convinced of your own lack of worth that you won't accept help from anyone who truly cares about you, that's an insult to both of you. Not only are you telling them that you don't take their opinion and their best efforts to help you seriously, but you're also sending a pretty clear message that, despite the help they want to give you, you don't WANT to get any better.
There's nothing wrong with sharing your feelings on the internet, if you're willing to do that. Of course, there's nothing wrong with having those feelings; it's natural to want to get them off your chest. It only gets annoying when you talk about nothing BUT your feelings, over and over again, and completely ignore anyone who tries to help you.
Before you know it, this can turn into blatant compliment-fishing. Sometimes you think that, if you insult yourself for long enough, some brave SJW will come along and drop a compliment bomb that makes you feel good about yourself again. Better yet, lots of people will do this, leading to your feeling loved and accepted on whatever social media platform you're venting on. Here's the thing, though: if you reply to these compliments with more self-deprecation, eventually, people are going to stop trying. If they don't think their kind words mean anything to you, or have helped you in any way, they aren't going to waste their time writing them.
There's also the very obvious attention-grab, which usually goes something like:
Person 1: Ugh, I want to post an art blog but no one will want to see it because my art sucks so bad.
Person 2: I'm sure your art is great! You should post it, we could help you improve!
Person 1: No, I'm too insecure. I think it sucks too bad.
See what I mean? They think, if they keep insulting themselves, they'll eventually garner enough compliments to satisfy them. More often than not, though, this is not what happens!
Depression is a very real problem, and it can feel very lonely. Please don't feel this way; there are countless people out there who are going through the same things you are, and there are plenty who used to. You ARE strong enough to beat your depression. But here's the thing: this can only happen if you want it to.
Therapy and medications can help; heck, even a heartfelt conversation with a parent or a friend can do a lot. But, in the end, the only person responsible for YOUR mind is YOU. You can't expect anyone else to fix your feelings for you, especially if you aren't doing anything to help yourself. And, believe me, no one wants to waste their time on someone who isn't going to hear them out!
There's a lot of truth in the statement "fake it til you make it". If you act sad and mopey all the time because you don't have any friends, then you probably aren't going to get a whole lot of volunteers. Put your best foot forward, find out what makes you happy, and be the person you want to be. It may take LOTS of tries, but it can work!
However, there's NO good that's EVER going to come out of moaning and groaning. If you can find something to complain about in EVERYTHING (I'm not pretty because of one feature I don't like! I don't think my art is as good as [insert person]'s! I'm trying to lose weight, but it hurts and I'm miserable!), then you're never going to be happy. Sometimes life deals you a bad hand; it happens to the best of us. If you give up, you're guaranteed to have a crappy day, or week, or year, or whatever. If you try to make it better for yourself, at least you have a chance.

Tl:dr: If you have a problem, don't waste your time and everyone else's moaning and groaning about it to anyone who will listen. Start trying to fix it any way you can, and don't give up until you've done it.

Rant over. Have a nice day.